Gottman’s research has taught us that most relationship conflicts revolve around perpetual issues. In these cases, the couple has either established a state of “dialogue” with the issue or a state of “gridlock” around the issue. Couples in gridlock typically pass through a number of conflictual stages, beginning with individual dreams in opposition,
moving to entrenchment of positions, most often in the form of fears of accepting influence, and finally resulting in partners’ emotional disengagement. In this presentation focused on moving couples from gridlock to dialogue, Lisa Lund’s two-pronged objective is to help us learn to identify and recognize the existential nature of perpetual problems and demonstrate how to use a Gottman intervention to help our couples uncover the dreams that lie beneath their entrenched positions.
Lisa Lund, CRC, LMFT, is a Senior Certified Gottman therapist, trainer, and workshop leader. She is also trained in emotionally focused therapy (EFT). She teaches both Level 1 and Level 2 Gottman Professional Trainings in Sebastopol, and, throughout the year, she co-presents workshops, such as The Art and Science of Love: Couples Weekend Workshop, with Dr. Bob Navarro in Mill Valley. Lisa Lund has a private practice both in Novato and Sebastopol, where she offers couples private therapy, adopting the Gottman method, which also includes Extended Sessions and Marathon Couples Therapy for clients, who want to jump-start their weekly treatment. For more information about Lisa Lund's therapy, trainings, and workshops visit www.acouplesplace.com.