Helping Clients Cope with Unhealthy Narcissism - Anywhere from their House to the White House, Dan Neuharth, PhD, LMFT
With the election of Donald Trump and advent of the "selfie" culture, unhealthy narcissism is drawing more discussion and awareness than ever. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or a narcissistic style are estimated to number more than 7 million in the United States and 150 million worldwide. In their quest for the spotlight, narcissists’ lack of empathy, grandiosity, and campaign of jaw-dropping tactics can devalue, undermine and inflict pain on those around them.
Clients raised by a narcissistic parent may have grown up in a world of only “winners” and “losers,” victims and victimizers. As a result, many of these clients feel on a treadmill of trying to gain approval and avoid disapproval yet feeling confused about what is normal or healthy. Clients in an intimate relationship with a narcissist may struggle to find reciprocity, intimacy and love in the face of dishonesty and betrayal from a person who uses others for his or her own needs and will rarely admit he or she is wrong. Clients who have friends or relatives with unhealthy narcissism, or who work for or with a narcissist, may often feel put down or manipulated. On an organizational or societal level, the presence of narcissists in high places can create emotional stress for large numbers of people, particularly those who grew up with, or are in relationships with, unhealthy narcissists.
This talk is intended to help demystify the confusing, often maddening behavior of narcissists so that we as clinicians can help our clients cope more effectively with narcissistic people. In attending this talk, clinicians will be better able to help their clients
Dan Neuharth, PhD, LMFT, is researcher and writer about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He has written a bestselling book about unhealthy narcissistic parenting titled If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Take Your Place in the World. He blogs on narcissism for both Psychology Today and PsychCentral.com. Dan has been in private practice as a licensed marriage and family therapist in Marin for 25 years seeing individuals and couples. He is current president of the Marin County chapter of CAMFT.