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Workshop: Melting the Shame Freeze: Somatic Techniques to Create Safety and Build Attachment, Bret Lyon, PhD and Sheila Rubin, LMFT

  • Sat, September 24, 2016
  • 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM
  • Room 201, Corte Madera Town Center, 770 Tamalpais Drive, Corte Madera, CA 94925


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Saturday, September 24, 2016  1:00 - 4:00 
Melting the Shame Freeze: Somatic Techniques to Create Safety and Build Attachment: A Workshop for Therapists & Helping Professionals
Sheila Rubin, LMFT and Bret Lyon, PhD

Do you ever get into have the experience of thinking you’re on track with a client and suddenly they shut down, change the subject or become very upset? As therapists, we are there to support and help the client grow, but sometimes there is a feeling that we are missing something. Often it is simply and most profoundly the emotion of shame. Shame is the embodied belief that "something is wrong with me". Many clients - and therapists - are not aware of how unhealed shame can keep body and emotions frozen.

Shame is an embodied belief that "something is wrong with me". Because shame exists in the body as well as the mind, it is helpful for therapists to work with shame somatically. Clients stuck in shame have trouble seeing anyone but themselves. It can be hard for them to receive support from another person because they are caught in the grip of shame. In this workshop Bret Lyon, PhD and Sheila Rubin, LMFT will explore how to utilize somatic techniques to connect more quickly and forge a therapeutic alliance with clients.

  • Learn to use breathing and grounding to resource the client 
  • Learn to resource ourselves as we sit with clients so we won't fall into somatic counter-transference and take the client's physical shame patterns and follow them down into a frozen shame state ourselves or follow them down the endless shame vortex 
  • Learn to keep our clients more present in the room with us and counter the shame reactions of over-verbalization, dissociation or freezing. 
  • Learn techniques and theory from William Reich, the father of Somatics, Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing), Ron Kurtz (Hakomi) and Eugene Gendlin (Focusing). 
  • Discuss Porge's Polyvagal Theory to understand how frozen a person can be in shame and ways to bring the person out of the shame freeze.

In addition to the lecture and case examples, the workshop will conduct a live demonstration on a brave volunteer to show techniques that can be used in your practice.

Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Drama Therapist and a Somatic Therapist. She has integrated somatic and expressive modalities with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to work with couples, adults and children who have shame and trauma. She has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha, and in Hakomi with Ron Kurtz. She is adjunct faculty at the CIIS Psychology and Drama Therapy Program and at the JFK University Somatic Psychology Program. She is a CAMFT Certified Supervisor and has been a healing professional for 25 years. She has developed techniques to work with the all-pervasive shame that underlies eating disorders and addictions.

Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP, BCC has been a teacher of Somatic and Emotional Mindfulness for over 30 years and holds doctorate degrees in both Psychology and Drama. He is a Board Certified Coach, certified in Focusing and Somatic Experiencing®, and has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha and in Coherence Therapy with Bruce Ecker. Bret has also trained in Reichian Breathwork with Al Bauman, who worked directly with Wilhelm Reich. He finds his theater background very helpful with clients and especially in giving presentations.

Bret and Sheila can be reached through their website:

  • Time: 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM
  • Location: Corte Madera Town Center                                      770 Tamalpais Drive, Room 201, Corte Madera, CA 94925 
  Member Non Member
      Clinical/Associate $59 $69
       Prelicensed $29 $39
       PSY/RN $69 $79
Continuing Education Goal: Marin CAMFT is committed to offering continuing education courses to train LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs to treat any client in an ethically and clinically sound manner based upon current accepted standards of practice. Course completion certificates will be awarded at the conclusion of the training and upon participant’s submission of his or her completed evaluation. 

Refund Policy: Requests for refunds must be in writing and received by Laurie Buntain, the Director at Large for Programs, no later than ten days before the program. There will be a $25.00 administrative fee to cancel registration for any program. The refund will be sent within ten days of the request.

Accommodation for Special Needs: The special needs of persons with disabilities will be accommodated. The Program Committee will endeavor to assure that continuing education program materials, content and venue selections will meet the special needs of the disabled and that reasonable accommodation will be made. A request for accommodation can be made Laurie Buntain, the Director at Large for Programs, who will work with the Committee and event venue to meet the need. All instructors will read and adhere to Marin CAMFT’s stated policies.

Marin CAMFT encourages those who attend its events to respect the fact that some individuals may have allergies to fragrances and pet dander. We ask that you refrain from introducing these elements into our meeting room. Registered service animals are welcome, of course.

Grievance ProcedureMarin CAMFT will respond to complaints in a reasonable, ethical and timely manner, when submitted by program attendees in writing to Laurie Buntain, the Director at Large for Programs.

Anti-Discrimination PolicyMarin CAMFT shall not discriminate against any individual or group with respect to any service, program or activity based on gender, race, creed, national origin, sexual orientation, religion, age or other prohibited basis. Marin CAMFT does not require attendees to adhere to any particular religion or creed in order to participate in training. Marin CAMFT will not promote or advocate for a single modality of treatment that is discriminatory or likely to harm clients based on current accepted standards or practice.

CE Approvals:

CEUs: This workshop meets the qualifications for 3 CEUs for LMFTs, LCSWs, LEPs and LPCCs. These will be provided by Marin CAMFT (CEP # 5689), which is approved by CAMFT to sponsor CE for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs. Marin CAMFT maintains responsibility for this program and its contents. Contact Laurie Buntain, Director-at-Large for Programs for more information.


CEUs for psychologists are provided by the Spiritual Competency Resource Center which is co-sponsoring this program. Spiritual Competency Resource Center is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. The Spiritual Competency Resource Center maintains responsibility for the program and its content. CE credits for nurses in California are available through the cosponsorship of the Institute of Noetic Sciences (BRN Provider CEP10318). California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE credits for license renewal by LCSWs and MFTs for programs from approved sponsors of CE by the American Psychological Association.   For questions about CE visit or contactDavid Lukoff, PhD at 

Marin County Chapter of CAMFT                  

PO Box 9065 San Rafael, CA 94912-9065     

(415) 459 3484

Marin CAMFT is approved by  the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT Provider #56895) to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and LEPs

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